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AlphaNomega asked:


Call me weird but I never understood the concept of privacy in many situations. When I was a little girl, my parents would be in deep conversation about family drama and I would be nosy and ask them what is going on and they would say it is “none of my business.” I wanted to know because I wanted to understand the issues that surrounded my family not because I meant anything negative.

“None of your Business” is a common response in my life. As an adult, I often tell people most things about me because I don’t see anything harmful in doing so. Of course I don’t tell things that are dangerous to tell such as Social Security Numbers, accounts, passwords etc. But for example, at work, when I take a vacation leave, I tell everyone what I’m up to and share the experience when I get back. Other employees are very private about their vacations when I inquire. I’m just getting to know how they enjoyed their time. I didn’t ask to be judemental, critical, or mean. Why so private? Why can’t society share their private experiences, thoughts, crisis, etc with people who inquire? I understand that it doesn’t involve me. That part I get. What I don’t understand is why choose to be private over being public to someone? Is it a disadvantage to reveal something? Do they think I think less of them for telling me? I will judge them? Maybe I can help them with something?

I just want to share/communicate those things that are considered “private” with people because it builds connections in society. You know, I don’t even know who the people that live next door to me are because they are so private. So sad if you ask me.
I’ve already expressed what purpose it serves for me to know. Sharing of knowledge, advise, bringing community together, etc. IM ASKING WHAT PURPOSE DOES IT SERVE TO NOT KNOW THOSE THINGS THAT IS BETTER THAN SOMEONE KNOWING? DOES TO MAKE THE SITUATION BETTER OR MORE VALUABLE ?
Aelfric, You DID NOT ANSWER the question. You got defensive. For your information, people at work enjoyed my vacation stories. If you had better reading skills, I’m trying to understand why society chooses to be private about things that aren’t going to work against them if they are public. I am not asking people if they are taking a dump or if they had *** last night. You understand?
Riddle me this: Answering a question with more questions is cyclical. I don’t tell people when I lost my virginity,etc. If you read my inquiry and used reading comprehension skills, you would see that I’m talking about general things, not if you are on your period, or if you had *** last night. There would be no advantage in sharing that. But say you are a co-worker who is privately in debt and you share that information with me. Knowing that, I won’t ask you if I could borrow 5 bucks for lunch that day I forgot money and you reluctantly give me it. Maybe I could get a support group to help you out with some of that debt by doing small things.

MARK

Deborah G asked:


Fiance of 14 yrs cheated on me big time w/my renters and street woman. I found out, he did not quit. He is now out of my properties. He is suing me for 1/2 of my properties. No written contracts between us. I cared for him and his disabled daugher for years plus we took many vacations I paid all . I need prayers that he will drop this law suit especialy after he gave me a VD. Any thoughts? Sounds crazy but I still think I love him I miss him too.. He is moving out of the city now.. I am dating someone now but not the perfect person for me. I also have an adult son with mental health doing good though. My ex boyfriend and I are both disabled He is 65 a past plumber, me 58 a past realtor.
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Jessica

DOLLARZ asked:


Just moved out from the “Nest” at 28…I have been caring for my parents for the last 10 years and I finally jumped ship the other day…I am not feeling apprehension about the situation concerning myself…I know I am ready, I have been ready… but rather I am more concerned with how my mom is taking it all…Both my parents are separated, but they still keep in touch and have a friendly relationship….Our extended family is 3,000 miles across the country and so getting much help from them is not much an option….My mother has had 5 adult children for 7 years now. My younger brother & sister both moved out before I did at ages 23 & 24, as also did my 2 older brothers who both moved out at 18. I lagged behind due to my own medical condition, & countless doctor visits I needed and still need, but I can do for myself now…
Mom has already gone through so much depression & anxiety about other life situations she is going through pushing at age 50. She had a heart attack February 2008, and she is dealing with helping my father who has prostate cancer at age 62. Mom has been to the psychatrist this past year concerning her mental health and that kept me home a little longer doing my teaching job, and while I attended University earning my B.S degree. I am only a few weeks from graduation, and mom is happy about that, but she is still mentally unstable, I am worried that I might be making her mental state worse off than it already is by leaving her in the mental state she is in.

Question: I. What did you all do when you moved out to help your parents to deal with you moving out…II. What age were you when you did move out, and III. How did you parents handle your moving, ie, are they still upset, did they go back to school, vacation more often, move out of state etc…Thanks

Jerita

Lola asked:


Im going on a summer vacation to colombia with some friends, and family and we are going to stay on a hotel in front of the beach, and im leaving in 2 weeks, and need some advices on how to loose atleast 10 lbs !! Please Helpp.

Thomas

Niti asked:


mine are boring.
i went on a trip for a week to simla and all bt now i m getting bored.

Evan

Blunt asked:


I’m a mature, professional adult. My friends (all in our 30′s) use dto go out often, have some drinks, party, go shopping, travel, dinner date together quite often.

Now, after I announced my pregnancy, I guess I’m not fun anymore??? No more late night cocktails or 5th avenue shopping trips (too tired to walk), no dinner dates because I’m ready to hit the pillow at 8, no last minute exotic vacations (motion sickness, afraid of strange foods), no casino getaways (they smell like smoke!) … now what?

Should I be socially ostracized because of pregnancy? I feel left out LOL!

Have you feel this way?

PS/ I guess I’m the party pooper
This is all on good fun. Thank you ladies for the insight. I’m glad (and releived) that it’s not only me LOL! : )
I don’t talk about the baby or my pregnancy at all. I do, however, have a friend and a close relative that have recently lost their unborn babies, and out of consideration to them, have kept everything very low key. My other friends have no excuse LOL!!!!!!
Baby Jace, you are cracking me UP LOL!!!!!! You are absolutly right, who wants to hang out with gassy, bitchy, fat, hand feeding balloon????? LOL!!!! and like you, I have not found those so called “mom friends” either. That must be an urban legend, where are they?? In the other hand, exchanging tips on how to control heartburn and hemorriods does not appeal to me at all LOL!!!

“the ghost friend” I love that too

Thank you everyone. You are the best!

Michelle

roxlgreg asked:


I don’t want to be a part of a sober group, but also don’t want to be around alcohol.

Alessandra

Studbolt Slickrock asked:


He is not married. He is not in a relationship with a woman at this time (by his own admission). He frequently rails against pre-marital sex, extra-marital sex, oral sex, *** for pleasure, and prostitution, as well as against Hispanics and drugs. Yet the impression is that he carried Viagra (a recreational drug) with him to another country (Hispanic) for a sexual holiday with someone not his wife. This impression leaves me terribly confused: why does he need Viagra? (can’t he get it up?); who did he have *** with? (a stranger? a **********? young boys? multiple partners?); why must he travel to foreign lands to have ***? )isn’t the USA best at everything?). I’m confused at the apparent incongruities and need enlightenment!

Mary

J.R. asked:


I am going for a week long vacation tomorrow morning at 11:00. I have 4 medium crickets left. I have an almost adult leopard gecko and it is pretty full. It also just shed and ate it’s skin. I have meal worms in there but it might not eat them because they are freeze dried. It will probably eat them because I put them in it’s calcium bowl so when it is licking it it will eat them. I also scattered some around. It has been eating well. It’s tail is kinda bulgy. It’s water dish is full. Will it be okay?
Should I feed it the crickets now or when I leave?

DAWN

la la asked:


I have been married less than a year I’m 23 and I have been seeing this married man 4 month and he’s 48. We met at a bar and he’s been married like 25 years and has got adult children. I love the way he makes me feel and he’s rich so he buys me a lot of jewelry and we go shopping. I’m so in love with him. We have planned going on a vacation together next week and we’re tell our spouses that it will be a business trip. Is that wrong going on a vacation with an older married man when I’m married?

KIMBERLY