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WhatToDo asked:


My boyfriend and I have been dating for less than a year and we have had our fair share of ups and downs. We are both 30 yrs old. He has had two serious girlfriends in his life, I am his first adult relationship.

Lately he has had a lot of stress in his life, and has been on edge and grumpy for the past couple of months. I do what I can to be there, but lately I feel like everything is for him. We went on vacation together for our birthdays, to a place I’ve been, but he’s never seen before – so I wanted to be sure he had a good time. I catered everything to him, even though it was my birthday too. Then when we got back, he had to deal with a lot of things, where I always drive over to his house, console him and and concerned for him. I bend over backwards for him and put in a lot of effort……

But I’m beginning to feel like he is taking his anger out on me now, and is so caught up in his issues, that he almost forgets to care about me. He seems to ask me about my day for conversation, not exactly because he cares….. and he hasnt said thank you to a thing I’ve done for him in the past two months during this rough patch.

I dont want anything in return, but when he starts treating me like a punching bag, I start to wonder if he is the one for me.

For the first time in a year, I’ve started to notice other guys.

Am I just being selfish? Or is this a problem?

Jessica

Miz D asked:


Back in the 1950s my aunt and uncle bought the outhouse from an old train depot and had it moved to their farm. It was a 3-holer with two adult-size and one child-size hole. I loved visiting this aunt and uncle on summer vacations to Iowa but that big stinky outhouse is not a favorite memory.

Do you know something interesting about outhouses? I’m thinking Senior Citizens is a good place to ask this question. Younger folks might not know much about the subject.
Gladys, thanks for telling us about the meaning of the crescent moon or star cut into the outhouse door. I never knew why they had them on the doors. I learned something new today.

Tina

libra-rising asked:


1: ARIES (Spirit/Pre-Birth)
The form in which you were created by God. The pure essence of You. You are the only soul with your particular “brand” of personality. You’ve just came into being, so you’re not yet ready to cross over into physical form.
2: TAURUS (Birth)
You are born into physical form by physical parents. You now use your physical senses to take in the world around you.
3: GEMINI (Infant)
You’re still a baby and learning sounds, shapes, colors, animals & even words. You don’t quite know who you are yet. You’re still learning the basics of life, like right & wrong.
4: CANCER (Toddler)
You are strongly attached to your parent(s) or guardian(s). Because, you realize that they’re the provider(s) of your basic worldly needs. You know things like names by now & you’re more physically able.
5: LEO (Childhood)
You’re extremely energetic & imaginative. You do whatever you want, but you’re so cute that you’re not expected to clean up your messes. You’re very self-expressive & creative. This is generally quite a happy time for you. This is also when you probably begin school.
6: VIRGO (Pre-Teen/Teenager)
You’re in the puberty stage. You probably have to clean up your messes now. The focus now is on physical hygiene. You’re likely in school, and you might start learning about relationships.
7: LIBRA (Teenager/Adult)
This is the time when you’ll graduate school. You’ll most likely start college, start a relationship or get a job. Now the focus is on relationships. You appreciate your own beauty, as well as the beauty of others. You’re finally at the age when you have the power to be on your own, and have freedom from the care of your parents.
8: SCORPIO (Adulthood)
If you’ve started a relationship, this is the most likely time when you’ll get married and/or have children. You have a strong sense of security. You are now focused on the assets of others. You have the power to handle other people’s belongings. This is the most likely time for your grandparent(s) to die and leave you with an inheritance. Your parents are aging. You’re quite ambitious or passionate now. This is likely the most sexual period in your life. It’s quite an intense time!
9: SAGITTARIUS (Middle Age)
This is likely to be the last point in your life when you’re very physically active. You’re quite philosophical. You’re probably still working at a job, but close to retiring. You might be having a “mid-life” crisis. Your parent(s) are likely to die during this time, or if you’re lucky, not until the next life stage. You want to take lots of vacations with your family or spouse while you’ve still got a sense of adventure. The focus is on traveling.
10: CAPRICORN (Old Age/Death)
Now you retire from your job. You’re too physically lethargic to work anymore. You’re mainly thinking about retiring at home and earning your annual 401k. You won’t tolerate being cheated financially, because the main focus is on receiving the money you deserve for your life’s work. Your spouse may die during this time, or if you’re lucky, not until the next life stage. You’re quite senile now. You’re likely to write your last will & testament.This is the final stage of your physical life.
11: AQUARIUS (Death/The Ever After)
Now your mind has been liberated from worldly things. You feel detached from “all that”. As crazy as it may seem, in your final days you’re not thinking about the past but dreaming about the future. You’ve likely been thinking about what your spouse or children will have left from you, and also about your future in the spiritual realm. You want to shower joy, hope & pearls of wisdom over family & friends. Now in your final moments, you want to give them spiritual guidance. You’re ready to cross over into the hereafter.
12: PISCES (The Ever After/Re-Birth)
You have crossed over into the spiritual realm. You realize that you are One in a “sea” of infinite souls, and there are endless universal possibilities. God is the Alpha & Omega, the Creator of Everything. Now that You are One with God, you have the power to control your spiritual journey or assist the journeys of other souls. This is also where you realize the importance of the physical journey. The cycle is complete and you can begin it all over again, starting with Re-Birth.
I wrote this, so yeah…What do U think of it?

Rochelle

Stacie! asked:


I’m currently living with my boyfriend. His parents don’t know we’re together. It’s kind of a cinderella story, I lived in the boonies with noooo money at all, and he came and saved me. Neither of us want to live apart.
My issue is with his parents. His parents think I have an apartment of my own down the street. Anyways, he’s 22, nearly 23 and STILL answering to his parents. We wanted to go down to Disney World for a little vacation, and his parents FLIPPED out because they were afraid of him driving that far and being down there alone and what not. We had to go without telling them and he felt really guilty about it later. I have family in Chicago, and I want to go see them. My sister is there and so is my brother. For spring break, we went to go see them. When we got back, his mom threw a fit. Not because he went…they still havn’t found out about that. But she was panicking because he went TWO days without calling her.
Another thing too, she sat down with him and lectured him about how he was to young to get married. The option of marriage hasn’t even come up between us. It’s kind of understood that once we both finish school, then we’ll be okay to think about it.
Not only that, but she also asked him about graduate school. He should have graduated by now, but he got sick his softmore year of collage and had to take it easy, so he took his time. He’s trying to get his senior year done with, and they’re on his back about graduate school. Why should they even care? They don’t realize that there are more important things like…MARRIAGE!
They’ve told him that he needed to get well into his career before we got married. That’s fine for career oriented people like them, but for me it’s not. I DONT want to wait that long. Why can’t that be taken care of while we’re married? Or am I wrong?
His mom was almost 40 when she had him(he’s a first born). And she doesn’t think that’s weird or to late. She thinks it’s normal. They never go on vacations except for surrounding states because she’s to scared to fly on plans or drive. Anytime Jonathan makes a decision that is “normal” for others his age, like going to Florida or Chicago for a spring break trip, his mom thinks it’s to dangerous and believes she still holds authority….

Am I just being selfish? Does his mom have this much authority over him at 23 years old? My parents have a firm belief that I’m an adult now, and I’m living on my own. They no longer support me. My decisions are mine and it’s my time to live my life to the fullest. What should I do?
I don’t want to move out. I want to try and get past this…
I was looking for advice in how to handle the situation.
He will be financially stable with his job. He’s already got a GREAT job lined up for him. The grad school will only help in paying more starting money. I don’t see how he can’t go to grad school and take it easy all while he’s in a job.

Jennifer

Peggy asked:


i need some help. some good detailed ideas on what to do..

dont tell me oh get up and move or call cops. there is no easy quick solution to my problem, and the cops are not fairy godmothers especially not the nypd, nyc police.

ok im a 25 yr old female living in a very large renovated house with a pool and housekeeper so i dont need to do housecleaning. i live in my parents house its their money, their home, their houekeeper etc..
i dont own much money i have about 200 dollars saved up in my bedroom other then that my parents do not support me financially, they just do not charge me rent to live in their large home and i get a bedroom of my own(with my old kids toys in it and pink walls, the same one i grew up in)
anyways so thats a plus, i have a place to live free,a roof over my head and a large enough home to avoid any fights with parents. i stay to myself alot and avoid them
and i dont need to do housework other then take care of my room, grocery shop over the phone, order supplies for the house, watch the house, call exterminators or the electric or gas company if theres a problem. i help over the phone since i cant walk well
my parents dont really do anything either, they dont cook or clean the home, no one cooksw or eats togeather in my home.. they go out to eat or eat at my sisters home. they are always over at my sisters home daily…but im not welcome there, but they eat alot of their meals over there
so they do not grocery shop. i am responsible for getting my own things by ordering household groceries for myself and them over the phone for delivery

i was in college, working hard, a serious smart student, never drank or smoked, no drugs, no crazy college parties. i was the studious nice girl who wanted to get through the classes and work towards a career
i didnt finish college because before i did i got into a bad accident and almost was dead, since then i can barely walk, for the last 3 years ive been bed ridden 50% of the time. i could not even stand up straight untill a month ago, i still have alot of trouble walking and bending and lifting stuff, and getting up and down steps, but i manage even tho i do everything very slow
so im disabled and cannot work and i have severe pain daily, even if i move the pain is worse
my parents have alot of money and they supported both of my older sisters fully financially at my age, they support my younger adult sisters.. so i dont see myself as a financial burden, since i dont askl for much just food,vitamins,toiletries,medication and some basic cheap discount clothing like t shirts, sneakers, skirt.. like wal mart, target priced things
but they decided over a year ago to stop paying for clothing for me and medicine, so i had to struggle. my older sister who just got out of her residency as a doctor had to help and pay for clothing for me this year and a winter coat and shoes for me since my parents do not want to spend any money on me.
my sisters only 30 and i feel guilty like its not her responsiblity since im not her daughter…i feel like my parents should be helping me, im not asking for alot, i dont have a car, i dont go on vacations or buy jewelery or things i dont need. i really dont need alot except for food,basic clothing and shoes,and toiletries.. just basic things to survive on
my parents dont want to spend the money on me, so when i need something i sort of panic and feel embarrased about calling one of my sisters to help
since they said its not their responsibility.
again my older sisters were fully financially supported by my parents at my age.they paid for their homes, credit cards, car payment, multiple vacations every few months they took, jewelery, deisgner clothes and handbags
im not even asking for any of that. i never owned more then 1 designer thing in my life and that was a handbag i got as a gift when i was younger
i just want basic stuff.if i were to day fair is fair id ask for jewelery and a car and 10 designer handbags and expensive clothes etc…like my sisters have, but i dont i just want basic stuff
anyhow so i have a big money problem because i need to know i have enough food and clothes..
my parents went through my room and tossed out all of my clothes. then they refused to give me any money to buy new stuff
so they are stubborn.. my sister had to 3 months later finally pay for some stuff through the internet to mail to me after seeing me go 3 months wearing the same outfit every other day
my parents are abusive, they lose their temper and have beaten me many times, they scream curse at and threaten me.. its uncalled for. i ignore them because im scared of them
i have health problems, heart problems and other serious medical problems and i have trouble walking and chronic pains. i can barely get my but i manage on my own… using the bathroom, showering and dressing are hard but i manage and compromise and do things slowly
i have trouble moving my arms a certain way like over my head alot of time
which gets in the way of dressing
they give me trouble and threaten me and they try to prevent me from eating, they dont like food to be sent to the house, so they dont let people send enough for me to eat.
its not the money, they have a few million dollars saved. they have money to provide me with enough groceries to last a week and for me to eat 3 times a day but i have to compromise and eat 1 meal a day because they are stubborn and dont let people send enough food. i am the only one who orders groceries. they walk around complainiung they are hungry when they dont go to my sisters house but then again they dont let me order food when i try to.. they should not complain of hunger if they dont let me order groceries for the house
its like they need attention..they are saying they are hungry and then they call all the stores and tell them not to deliver..
i dont know why they starve me but it isnt helping my health and if my health was well id be able to get a job and care for myself and live in my own
my father beat me and broke my sternum a few years ago, i tried telling the cops a few times and they didnt believe me since its not my house and my father answered the door and he is loud and outspoken, and im a quit person but either way they didnt believe me…again this is nypd theres so many complaints against my local police precinct by the community, the cops here are bad and dont do their job
my father got angry when i told him i want to go to college and get married and that i will recover first… he didnt like that i was seeing doctors or trying to have friends come over to bring me groceries or help me in other ways, like with mailing things..since i was homebound and could not walk without losing my balance.. so my father threatend me and went to court against me a few times meanwhile paying a lawyer thousands of dollars to go against me

he went to court and lied of course, first he tried to have me commited to a mental ward for no reason, he made up a bunch of poorly thought out stories that didnt ad up and the judge saw right through him and dismissed it and i won, she saw he was a liar
he then went 2 more times without me to court, i wasnt even served court papers. while i was bedridden he went to court to get an order of protection against me. i couldnt show up because i was stuck in bed.
then he went to court to try to gain adult guardianship of me and i was bed
then he went to court to try to gain adult guardianship of me and i was bedridden then also and he won against me
so now he owns my money, and me and all the decisions, but he dosnt talk to me.. it was a different judge and a male judge this time
anyhow everyone knows i dont qualify for adult guardianship. you need to be mentally ill,in a vegetetive state or mentally impaired, like not knowing what day it is or how to think.. like a downs syndrome person. so they assign a person to make money, life, personal, marriage and health decisions for you. you dont even get to write a will or sign up against organ donation or things. its usually for advanced alzheimers pateints whos kids want them in a nursing home
now i have nothing mentally wrong with me and ive been told that by a psychologist.
my parents know that they just want to get even with me(my father has narcisistic personality disorder and is a sociopath, so to him getting even at your 25 yr old sick daughter is normal)
hes 65 by the way..almost 3 times my age\
everyone who knows him knows hes mentally ill and he abused 5 children(me and my siblings) they all do not like him, but they are scared of him so they kiss up to him and accept his money as adults.
i was hoping id be in graduate school by now so i can start supporting myself i didnt know id end up with moblity trouble and find out i have heart problems and other medical problems
anyhow so i need to find a way to get my parents to back off of me and let me take it easy while in their home.i need to have enough food, clothes, medicine, vitamins, and its all in their budget., they own millions and i cannot imagine it would cost that much.groceries like 400 a month, clothes 3 times a year. 5-600 dollars for a wardrobe,vitamins like 100 dollars a year,
i want to sign up for disability checks so i can have money for food and to care for myself but my father threatened to take all the money and use it on himself. he also refuses to give me my id and
ok well what to do?

social services messed up my life a few times, i had bad run into with child protective service and adult protectice service, they made my life bad and took my parents side each time which ended me up in alot of trouble. so i want to avoid that path
i also cannot afford a lawyer and every free law service turned me away. i tried legal aid and they dont handle such cases they told me
the cops refuse to help…

what can i do on my own tho

any creative things
i cant work, i have trouble walking and am homebound, i cannot leave my home. i also do not have the same right as a 25 yr old. if i do work my father gets the money
he says if i leave he will call the cops, the cops will lock me away if he tells them to
i know you said you have schitzophrenia and that does not stop a person from working..
i have medical problems, that does stop people from working.i need disability checks and i cant get them because my father will take them and he wont give me the documents i need
yea really i am depressed about this, not mental depressed but just sad and stressed over the abuse and i cry because of it alot.
only one of my sisters supports herself. the rest of them are supported by my father..im scared to be out on my own even tho i was trying to move away years ago before i got injured. i was ready when i was 18 and 21 but not now which is weird , maybe because im scared of my physical mobility and health problems and maybe because i became used to living at home… it became sort of a comfort for me that maybe im scared to go and be independant? part of me dosnt feel like a starting a life, not like this and disabled. id also need someone to come over and cook for me since i have trouble bending to use an oven or lifting pots. id also need someone to come over and clean the house and do laundry for me. since i have trouble with physical tasks i used to do.
i lost alot of ambitions of mine, maybe i became depressed

Paula

Beatle Dave asked:


We’ve been seeing each other 2 years (steady) & don’t live together. Her best friend’s married, she just got a large long-awaited check, & invited her to join them (as friends will do) for a week-long vacation where they will be staying at a rental beach house, with a pool, on the beach. Sounded great, & I was okay with it until I asked her who else was going. She hadn’t mentioned it, but then told me their adult son was “probably going.” My girlfriend & he had a “thing” together about ten years ago (she said they only kissed), but she stopped it because they were too much like friends. He has since married, but recently separated.
My question is, am I wrong to be uncomfortable with this arrangement? I simply told her how I felt when it came up. I’m not asking her not to go. I had encouraged her to go & have fun, even tho we had previously discussed going someday. She reacted by telling me she’s gonna drop out & I don’t know the best way to talk to her about that. Advice PLEASE?????

Lakeesha

drc457 asked:


I know I must not belittle their mother in front of the kids. Is it wrong to ask them how they feel about things? Recently our 9 year old daughter told me a class-mate that lives in our old neighborhood saw her mommy kissing her recent boy friend. She told her about it. also explained that she hardly ever see her mommies car at the house. My daughter is very smart and knew mommy was lying about just having a male friend and not a boyfriend.She figured out when at mommies other friends house and saw this so called male friend answer her mommies cell phone something more then friendship was going on. Even though we aren’t divorced yet and only living apart I know somewhere this hurting the kids. She bought the kids a prepaid cell phone so they could call her but she maybe calls them once a week.I as the adult know all to well what type of a person their mommy is.It’s so hard to bite my tongue and not go off in front of the kids about their mother exploits. Do I sit back let their mom lie to them without saying anything at all? I remember 3 years ago (after she said she never cheat again) finding out she was giving out our home phone No. in adult chat rooms. That was frightening to me. The affair That sent me leaving along with the kids.She would take our 3 girls not our son to meet her then lover. Introduce him as her boss, a friend as John Smith. She even helped support that guy with money. Told the girls not to tell me about their meetings ’cause then we would not be able take family vacations.I have hurt issues. I know but how not to let them to be hurt by their mommies behavior and lies Please help

AVERYLL

rekrap10002000 asked:


i have narrowed my vacation to these two. they both have the adult fun i am looking for. i have good street smarts being raised in an american city and have traveled the world during my 10 years of military service. i travel alone so what is the safest place to go? iknow to dress down and blend in plus no jewelry only keep a small amount of money for that night and only carry id. but i am an afro american no spanish so they will notice when i speak

Valerie

may_may_01 asked:


I want a steal!!! Please help me. I need 4 adults. Thanks!
I am penny pinching on this vacation.

Kelly

Tee Hee asked:


Story- Follows main protagonists Berry Lewis, Daren Williams, Holly Appleby after graduating from the rank of Apprentice becoming a higher rank, Journeymen. It’s generally a long process to become a certified Mercer (merchant) and once they become one, they may start a business and become masters of their trade.

They leave their master, and traveling together for protection, they must buy and sell certain rare items, obtain a certain profit, and report back to their master with evidence once they completed their task to gain a new one, but he also has business himself sometimes and with clues they must navigate his location. They make companions and enemies along the way. They get vacations when they do a very satisfactory job.

However, it’s not as easy as it sounds. Hardship arises both on sea from pirates and overland from thieves, criminals, etc. And of course poor navigating at times, bad weather, lack of food, water, etc, war, being accused of being witch/wizards from superstitious towns people, dealing with consequences of making bad deals with leprechaun mafia, con artists, and even vengeful mermaids angered by pollution caused by humans. But sometimes the struggle can lead to a very rewarding outcome in the end…or not.

1) Does my story sound too childish? I’m 16, and don’t want it in that “Child Zone” or anything. This story was in fact to relate to college kids. Leaving home and trying to map out your future, taking a first step into adult world, meeting interesting people and being independent. Since the era is somewhat a spoof of medieval times, I thought that I’d incorporate some medieval folklore and superstitions like mermaids, leprechauns, etc. But not too much, I want a feel of reality also. So there’s no super human strength and crap like that.

2) Does my story sound interesting? Hopefully it doesn’t sound like any cliché coming of age garbage. My primary characters are no super heroes, have no prophecies, and don’t always do what’s right, but with time they learn from their mistakes, but sometimes not completely.

3) The thing which troubles me most is romance. How am I to go about this? I don’t want any adult situations between my characters, so since this is like the medieval era, I was going to make it the norm of society to wait for marriage rather than most college people now days to avoid adult situations. Also they aren’t allowed to marry during Journeymen stage, but can date. What do you think of this?

Also I was planning on Berry and Holly to have budding relationship over time, though not sure of the other’s feelings, aren’t sure how to act at times, which creates tension. I want it to be really slow developing though because I’m planning a long series. In what ways can I go about this? Also does their description below sound compatible?

Berry Lewis- 17 year old. He’s also black; different from your usual main protagonist. He’s a laid back, open minded, amusing type of character and loyal to friends. Doesn’t rely solely on strength to get things done, as he isn’t the strongest hot shot around. But he is a great leader. Nickname is “Bear” And always wears a special mistletoe necklace around his neck.

Holly Schmit- 17. Naturally, she is independent, possessive, compassionate, courageous, feisty, strong-willed, and a great fighter to boot- with only the occasional mood swing. Good ability to see the good in others

John